Family and Relationships

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• Gender Mirror Nice site by a transman-transwoman couple. Includes "the first ever public photo of a transman and transwoman kissing" and a sample from their upcoming book.
  
• Vanessa Kaye's Gender-Gifted Pages A web source for couples in TG relationships.
  
• A SOFFA's Resource Guide This is a site dedicated to the significant others, friends, families, and allies of the transgendered community. It contains resources for anyone involved in the transitional process.
  
• Polare, the magazine of The Gender Centre "A great many of the articles and stories appearing in transgendered publications center around the crossdresser´s needs, and rights, to express their feminine side. It is also a common theme to belittle or shame those who would deny or put limitations on this expression of self. Unfortunately while endorsing the rights of the transgendered, there is a tendency to ignore the very real feelings, needs and rights of the partners of these gender-gifted persons...."
  
• TransParent Winter, 1997 Including stories like "How did I start out with a melancholy Catholic daughter and end up with a contented Jewish son? (The tale of Philadelphia T*FAM)," "Life is more fun married to a transsexual," and "Mary Boenke - A PFLAG leader's lesbian daughter becomes her son."
  
• Significance Female to Male significant other support page. Seeking significant others to share experiences with and to encourage one and other. Please stop by.
  
• If You're Going to Be a Female, Please Don't Be an Airhead "I'm 39 years old, and about two decades ago I made a decision to reject some of the feminine frippery that I found--to dust off a phrase from the Sixties--demeaning to women. I'm talking about makeup, unnaturally curly hair, nails long enough to impair dexterity, shoes two sizes too small, starving oneself thin, and so on. (What twisted piece of karma gave me a husband who wears high heels is beyond me, but I can't help but see the humor in it.)"
  
• Parent Letter A letter from a mother of a transsexual to other parents. This letter stresses that love is the most important thing.
  
• An Open Letter to the Parents of Transsexual Childeren A letter written by a transsexual to the parents of others in the hopes that they may learn more about the feelings and frustrations of being a TS.
  
• Kathy and Amanda A hetrosexual crossdresser and his wife share their biographies, pictures and real life adventures.
  
• Forum: Common Ground Archive The archive of Washington Post articles by SOFFA activist Loree Cook-Daniels. Lots of transfamily content!
  
• The Couples' Network Relationships between men and women are difficult enough with the pressures of jobs, money, children, bills and family matters. When the issue of transgenderism is added to this already boiling cauldron, it's good to know that there are others who have successfully navigated through this stretch of water. You are not alone, nor are you in unexplored territory.
  
• Even Genetic Girls Get the Blues Personal essay about one woman's first meeting for significant others of cross-dressers.
  
• Workshops Suggestions for FTM and SOFFAs A list of about 26 workshops that Amboyz folks wrote up a few years ago to demonstrate how F2M issues can be inclusive of the whole spectrum of F2Ms as well as to soffas (significant others, friends, family, and allies).
  
• Silence = Death A great essay from the partner of an intersexed lesbian, about coming to identify as part of the transgender and intersex communities and unite in battle.
  
• Transsexualism and Gender Transition FAQ Information for friends, family, and co-workers of the transgendered person. Question and answer format. Supportive, simple, clear content.
  
• When you love the one you're with.... "'Impossible! Ha Ha very funny! No Way! How? How could you?' and then stunned silence. These were some of the many reactions I had when my SO told me that he was transgendered. The man I loved with all my heart and soul, the man I promised to stand by through all of life's hardships and joys, the man I married wasn't a man at all. He was a woman born into a man's body."
  
• SOFFAs? Yes! A little talk from the American Boyz page on our significant others and the transitions and challenges they face with us.
  
• Personal Stories "If you have AIS or are the parents of an AIS child, we would like to hear from you. We will use this part of the web site to display people's stories. Some AIS patients have found it very helpful to tell what happened to them. For many of us, it is a change to "say" those things that we sometimes have never told anyone."
  
• Sexual Orientation Confusion Among Spouses An Abstract dealing with spouses' reaction to disclosure of husband's crossgendered behavior.
  
• What If? A lovely essay by a Quaker P-FLAG member. "Look, we take chances. We are in the business of saving lives. Lives of confused youth, lives of desperate adults. Does it make a difference? What is each of those lives worth? Who else is really fighting for those we seek to save?...There is a responsibility here. A responsibility that few are willing to accept. Most simply turn their faces away... what you can not see simply does not exist."
  
• Christian Significant Others of Crossdressers A safe haven for the partners of Christian crossdressers to find support and fellowship.
  
• For the Wives and Girlfriends Reflections and advice for and by significant others of crossdressers and transvestites.
  
• Dana Bourne, webDOTgal Resources for transgendered people and their significant others.
  
• Trans Forming Families Book - Excerpts Little tastes of what's in the whole book, with captions like "Tell Grandma I'm a Boy" and "More Than 'Standing By My Trans'."
  
• The TG Partners Page our loved ones have been pretty much left out of all this. Even sites that have some support for you often require you to start at a TG person's Home Page that has a beautiful (but possibly upsetting to you) photograph at the top. Wives, Partners, and other Significant Others, this site is for you. It is being created and maintained by a married man who crossdresses. I sincerely hope that it provides you with a friendly, non-threatening place to share your thoughts with many, many others.
  
• An Open Letter to the Parents, Family and Friends of a Transsexual "Since you are reading this, I assume that someone close to you, a friend or family member, has made what must appear to you to be a very shocking and perhaps disturbing disclosure. Your thoughts must be racing at this moment and your emotions are probably in a turmoil. You probably have many question. If you are concerned about the person, you probably have some fears. In this letter, I will try to answer some of those questions and deal with a few of those fears. I can speak with authority on this subject, because I am a transsexual."
  
• TransFamily Cleveland TransFamily Cleveland is a support group for transgendered and transsexual people, their parents, partners, children, other family members, friends, and supportive others and provides referrals, literature, and over-the-phone information on all transgender issues.
  
• Straight Spouse Network (SSN) -- Home Page The Straight Spouse Network (SSN) is an international support network of heterosexual women and men, formerly or currently partnered with gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered mates.
  
• TRANS-POSITIONED About being the lesbian-identified partner of an FTM, by the wondrous Loree Cook-Daniels. "I expected rejection. I expected incredulity. I expected anger. I expected curiosity. What I did not expect was what I found. Out of the first 30 or so coupled lesbian friends we talked to, threeadmitted that one of the partners felt she was also a female-to-male transsexual (FTM). A fourth lesbian friend said she had struggled with the question for many years before deciding to keep her female body and role. During the whole nine years Marcelle and I had grappled in isolation with that invisible elephant in the living room, other lesbians we knew and socialized with were cohabitating with the same beast!"
  
• Patty and Mikal Mikal is 23 yrs. old and is a pre-everything FTM. Patty is 33 yrs. old and a bi femme boychick. They are looking to make new friends in this ever expanding FTM-S/O community.
  
• Melissa and Kath's Tea Time A couple involved with a cross dressing relationship sharing with others what they have gone through.
  
• SOFFA resource list A list of groups that explicitly welcome partners, significant others, family members, and/or other interested persons of FTMs.
  
• TS and Marriage "A couple enters a marriage because they care about the welfare of their partner. The couple agree to work together in times of health or sickness, during times of financial plenty or when disaster hits. Should one spouse be severely injured in an accident, would the other spouse immediately file for divorce because of such a change in the marriage situation? Very, very few would."
  
• GAIN for January 16, 1999 Announcement of a soffa activists' chat on AOL.
  
• Minnie Bruce Pratt An amazing incredible poet-activist who writes prose poems like "Beatrice waits for the woman with eyes that say, Come with me. Into the rain-streaked street of night, the yellow leaves fallen like golden scars on black asphalt, they walk out their answer to the riddle, the woman who is not a man, the woman who is not a woman, following the yellow drift like fire around the corner."
  
• S.T.A.R.R North Carolina STARR is a support group for heterosexual cross dressers and wives/SO's that meet on the second weekend of the month in a non sexual environment. Located in North Carolina.STARR has programs for both couples as well as the single members.